Ep21: Benefits of Setting Boundaries with Rachel Havekost
In this episode, we speak to Rachel Havekost on all things boundaries. She is a mental health influencer and writer passionate about de-stigmatizing taboo topics related to mental health, relationships, and the human condition.
After 17 years of on and off therapy, Rachel hopes that by sharing what she’s learned both in life and in therapy, she can create safe spaces for people to learn, connect, and feel less alone.
Tune in to this episode to get insights on setting boundaries, types of boundaries, and how you can stand within your boundaries.
[02:56] About Rachel Havekost
[08:29] What do boundaries even mean?
[14:02] Process of setting boundaries to what you believe in from society beliefs
[16:34] Were most people receptive to you setting boundaries?
[18:02] How your relationships changed after setting your boundaries
[18:49] Types of boundaries
[29:10] How do you know you are worthy to set that boundary for yourself?
[32:11] How do you work through someone not respecting your boundaries?
[37:17] Different boundaries depending on the relationship
[41:12] How to go about people setting boundaries with us
[47:10] Instances where boundary setting yielded to stronger relationships or closed some chapters
[57:20] Havekost’s pre-boundary versus post-boundary scenario
“We exist because we are in a relationship with peers, partners, family, and mentors.”
“Setting boundaries isn’t forcing someone to do something but rather stating where you are at in the process. Like having to be okay with what the outcome is.”
“Setting a boundary doesn’t mean that the person on the other end will abide. They may not. But it has to stand in your worth.”
“You will not get it perfect the first time, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you stop setting boundaries. It just means that this is a new thing, and your body and brain have not caught up to the action you are taking.”
“We aren’t going to be everything for everyone all the time, and that’s okay. That is what makes us different, unique, and human.”
“What bothers me about you is completely what someone else loves about you, so do not get rid of it.”
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